I would take the time—and the risk—of getting close to people and letting them get close to me. I would vow to love people before trying to lead them. This choice would at times make me vulnerable. I would get hurt. Yet the close relationships would allow me to help them as well as be helped by them.

What kind of a leader would leave everyone behind and take the journey alone? A selfish one.

Good leaders are like tour guides. They know the territory because they’ve made the trip before, and they do what they can to make the trip enjoyable and successful for everybody.

“There’s only one thing more painful than learning from experience, and that is not learning from experience.” Wanting to win isn’t enough. You have to go through a process to improve. That takes patience, perseverance, and intentionality. Leadership is taking responsibility while others are making excuses. I now realize that loneliness is not a positional issue; it is a personality issue. To gain credibility, you must consistently demonstrate three things:

1. Initiative: You have to get up to go up.
2. Sacrifice: You have to give up to go up.
3. Maturity: You have to grow up to go up.

Convicting questions:
1. Are you better at the science or art of leadership?
2. Why do you want to be at the top?
3. How big is your dream?

“This staff member and I did everything together. One of the best ways to train others is to let them accompany you to observe what you do, give some training, and then let them make an attempt at doing it. That’s what we did. It was my first experience in mentoring.”

1) If you are leading others and you are lonely, then you are not doing it right. Think about it. If you are alone, that means nobody is following you. And if nobody is following you, you’re not really leading.

2) Taking people to the top is what good leaders do.

3) A boss says “Go.” A leader says “lets go” Leaders take others to the top

1. How clearly do you see yourself? To get a more objective look at yourself, review your performance from the last year. List all of your major goals and objectives and then mark each as either “achieved” or “not achieved.” Now talk to someone you know and respect and tell them you are evaluating a candidate for a job, and show them the list. Ask them what they think based on the “candidate’s” achievements and failures. How does that person’s evaluation jibe with your own?

These quotes all come from Leadership Gold by John Maxwell.

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